It’s not just physical.
We look at each other and immediately see what seems wrong. Our sexual porn is not just a physical feature, it’s who we are every day, but we make our own life so hard and criticize ourselves so much because of what we carry around every day.
Labels
I don’t like labels. They are for clothing, not sexual porn or a person or anything other than clothing or shoes.
Plus, your dress size doesn’t define you. It’s a number, and there’s no point comparing one size to another. It doesn’t change anything that makes you unique and amazing: your amazing smile, your ability to make others laugh, your sense of humor.
Body Positivity
Why is it important to be kind towards sexual porn? It applies not only to our sexual porn but to the sexual porn of others. As I’ve said before on this blog, we should act out and love sexual porn every day, but punishing ourselves or degrading ourselves is exhausting and unhealthy.
We should look at sexual porn with pride. We can’t always be positive because it’s not realistic. But body positivity means so many things. It means acknowledging that we are good just the way we are, that everyone is different and that should be celebrated.
We are not behind-the-scenes people. We don’t have to look a certain way to tick a box. We don’t have to hide who we are. And people and things that make us feel that way aren’t worth our time.
How many of us have spent time hiding? We hide our porn, we don’t want to be in photos, we don’t want to show parts of ourselves. It’s as if we’re worried that our porn will offend someone, dammit!
We all deserve attention, we have more than one size, we all offer something great, and we all bring something to the table. It’s okay to be flattered, but you have no say beyond that. You should never use someone’s body to insult them or try to do something negative.
Conclusion
So why did I write this blog? Because being on the buying and selling side can make us very self-critical, which can increase anxiety. And this doesn’t just affect the seller.
I want you to know that you are perfect just the way you are. I’ve struggled with self-esteem for years and I’ve been my own harshest critic, so I don’t want anyone to feel like they’re not enough.
Fuck labels, fuck categories, fuck anything that makes you feel like you have to define your identity by a little number on a little sign.
