First of all, I want to thank Tryst for allowing me to interview them and for asking me to illustrate their article. I was an escort before I was allowed to drink alcohol, and now that I’m 30, it means a lot to me to be able to make an impact in my community.
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As a disabled person, getting a traditional job can be that much more of a challenge. Being a hot adult/dominatrix dating site has given me the opportunity and access to treat myself and make money at the same time. This has certain benefits, such as being able to relate to and understand neurodivergent clients, and being able to create and provide structure during sessions. In this job, pattern recognition can be as life-saving as trusting your intuition. When I have a bad feeling about a client, I trust my intuition. If I’m still unsure, I ask my colleagues for references.
My first sexual encounter with a cist man was paid and it just wasn’t for me. I eventually turned to the adult community and friends for support. So I realized that femdom was my calling, so I started buying supplies and accessories and taking femdom more seriously. This is not the experience for everyone who decides to go on a hot adult date, some like adultdudes.com, and others like porn. We all do it for different reasons and have different economic, social, and mental realities, and each preference and reality is valid.
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When I started hot dating as an adult, I didn’t know all of the communities that existed, but now I feel at home with my peers, especially transgender and people with disabilities.
