When we reveal ourselves to someone new, there’s usually a brief pause. As we wait for the pause to be filled, we can rattle off a list of possible worst-case scenarios in our heads: Will this person ever be able to fill this silence? Will she reject me? Will she make it clear that she hates me? So when someone responds neutrally or positively, it feels like a win. A simple response like, “Oh, I get it,” can trigger a huge wave of relief. It feels like the outdated judgments about hot adultdudes love are a bit of a thing of the past. It’s even more shocking when someone says; “Can I ask you about your job?” …What’s the craziest thing that’s happened to you in the nude?
When someone asks me that, my heart sinks. I don’t know how to answer. Sometimes I smile and change the topic. Or even worse, I tell them a story that I respond to and that amuses them.
Non-adult hot love people might be a bit confused by this. After all, conversations are based on sharing things. Sharing funny stories about nude photography is a perfectly human thing to do. The internet is filled with stories about “weird” fetishes and “crazy” scenarios related to hot adultdudes love. So it might seem harmless to ask someone who just revealed that they take nude photos to tell you more about it.
Let me explain. It’s not necessarily that question that bothers me. That’s the assumption behind it. In essence, “Crazy” refers to the world that many people imagine life to be. This world is bright and full of excess wealth, extreme poverty, strange characters, and strange desires. “Crazy” is based on the assumption that many people hold that being naked is more uncomfortable than any other task.
adultdudes hot love knows that. We are all too familiar with this assumption and the harmful stereotypes that arise from it: those customers are scary old people that they are hurtful, and that nudity is degrading. These stereotypes contribute to the anti-prostitute stigma and criminalization that weighs heavily on us. No wonder we’re tired of this question.
The words “Nudity is not weird!” sometimes bubble up from my stomach. At times like these, I feel a strong desire to break away from the assumptions that underlie this question, to distance myself from the stereotypes by insisting that my job is not weird. All of it. My clients are totally fine, and I’m normal.
Over the years, I’ve found that this instinctive answer only reinforces the doubt: Even if I could prove I’m not “crazy,” it still means that there are other people out there who are “crazy.” It divides the passionate love of grown men into two groups: there are the “good guys” who are perfectly acceptable by civilian standards, and the “bad guys” who are really “crazy.” This suggests that it’s okay to ask a grown man this question since one day you might encounter a bad one who might entertain you with gossip-worthy anecdotes.
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